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Kate’s profile reports 223 total posts. Wrong Planet’s public search currently exposes 192 of them, dated June 26, 2004 through February 5, 2014. The missing 31 are not silently invented.
Hello all, I went to my local Jewish history museum yesterday and they said I can do a presentation on Asperger's/autism for Jewish Disability Awareness month! Very cool! I am now trying to figure out what to center it around. I was wondering if anyone would mind answering these questions for me to ...
Hello I have another question. I am interested in exploring sensory integration dysfunction issues. (Sensory overload etc) Does anyone hear have any sense that particularly bother them and more importantly, did you ever get any therapy meant to help this? Is it possible to have sensory integration t...
Devark, how did you happen upon Mirtazapine? I looked it up as I hadn't heard of it. It seems to be an anti-depressant, but I am unclear if it is an SSRI or some other kind. How did your doctor choose that over the more popular SSRIs? Does anyone else find that their doctor just wants to prescribe t...
Google Scholar is a good idea. Yes, I will look at the published literature. In fact, I suppose I should have started there. But I've always been one who is interested in individual case studies and like to have those to back up or at least supplement the very dry scientific literature. I thought it...
Google Scholar is a good idea. Yes, I will look at the published literature. In fact, I suppose I should have started there. But I've always been one who is interested in individual case studies and like to have those to back up or at least supplement the very dry scientific literature. I thought it...
Okay.... I am about to write a section on medications for anxiety/depression/behaviors and Asperger's for a book I am ghost writing. Anyone want to help me out with a little bit of quick research to start and tell me what medications you are on, and maybe some opinions about their efficacy? You know...
I also have trouble with all kinds of smells including synthetic fragrances of all kind so I completely can relate to this thread! It has greatly impacted my life, to say the least.
Can I hear from Aspies who also have ADD? I am AS just recently given possible ADD DX and started meds tonight, have questions re effects of the meds. Bonus points if you respond to this tonight but tomorrow is ok too.... thanks. Will wait to ask questions till I see if I get anyone Just started on ...
I'm so sorry to hear about all that you are going through. Student teaching can definitely be stressful. I am sorry you didn't pass. I hope things get better!
Okay sorry just email me then, im not trying to harvest your info, i just want to start a support group
Hello all, I have recently discovered the wonders of Skype for communicating with people. I have talked on Skype with people I've known online for years and found a whole new dimension open up in my friendship with them. Being able to hear people is so much more meaningful than just typing with them...
Hey I just thought I'd let everyone know that the book I just wrote and published about Asperger's is now being offered for 15% off. It's about me traveling the country for the last 2 yrs and how Asperger's affected me. Free shipping too. Thanks. It's at http://kategoldfield.webs.com I'd love to get...
Thanks! I got my copy of the book in the mail today. It looks great and I am very relieved! It's very hard to get accepted to a publishing house. Self publishing is a good option for those who don't want to go that route, which is very time consuming and full of dissapointment. If you promote your b...
Hi, On Lulu.com it's free. They will publish it for you, and take a cut of the earnings, and then you get a cut, too. Lulu.com is the website. What do you want to write about? Kate
Hi all, Just letting you know that I wrote a book on my experiences with Asperger's, and published it on a site called Lulu. It is called "Common Scents: Adventures with Autism and Chemical Sensitivity."and it is about two years I spent traveling around the country looking for a suitable place to li...
Hi all, Just letting you know that I wrote a book on my experiences with Asperger's, and published it on a site called Lulu. It is called "Common Scents: Adventures with Autism and Chemical Sensitivity."and it is about two years I spent traveling around the country looking for a suitable place to li...
Did he say what symptoms or side effects that would create? Also did insurance cover it? I was thinking of getting my hormones tested but heard it was expensive. Kate
I'm late to this thread, but just read the whole thing and hoped i might be able to offer a little bit of help. There is a such thing as a warm line. you can call them and talk for as long as you need about whatever is on your mind. it is like a hot line only it is to listen to people with mental he...
Thanks! I appreciate it! Can you try tyo leave a comment when you come about anythign that comes to mind so I know you were there? Much appreciated! Kate
Hi everyone, I just wanted you to know that I started a new blog about Asperger's,, and I would be honored if some of you would come over and look at my posts, maybe ;leave a comment or two. Thanks very much!! It is at http://aspiefrommaine.blogspot.com/ Kate
I just started a blog called Aspie from Maine about life with AS. It's at http://aspiefrommaine.blogspot.com/
I am very extraverted and often cant stop talking as well
I am sorry to hear that, that must be so scary, and so frightening. Are there agencies in your town you can contact for help? What about sharing a place with someone - that is usually cheaper than living in an apartment. Go on your local Craigslist and start looking at the roommate ads. You can usua...
Thank you, I appreciate that comment; you brightened my night by saying it. I know the NY state rental laws pretty well as I researched them when I lived there and had landlord issues. But I am pretty sure most states have similar laws, and Fair Housing organizations are in all states. Kate
Oh, man. That is beyond horrible. You do not deserve that at all. Please call the Fair Housing Agency in your city or state. I can help you if you like. Email me, [email omitted] There is something called constructive eviction, if they force you out because they have made the place unsafe for you...
Dan is working for a tech startup in California, Palo Alto.he started thre site with alex
PS pls email me at [email omitted] in case I don't see replies here but will check back, thanks!
Hi, I posted a few months ago here that I was moving to Oregon. It didn't work out and now I need help finding another place if anyone can help.... Long story short: I have chemical sensitivites and cannot live anywhere with chemical or fragranced products of any kind. Will give more info if needed....
Yes..... that describes my life pretty well. I am getting better about remmbering to do those things. I know how to cook chicken and eggs now, as well as a steak in the oven. I try to make lists so I remember everything I need to do. But i get accused of not doing stuff like that all the time. I do ...
Okay, so after all this, four pages of posts, I can't recall one post that mentioned what I think should be obvious: With some Aspies, myself included, it is not a a matter of WANT to look nice, WANT to dress up. It is not a choice. I have such severe sensory issues that I am extremely lucky if I ca...
I am moving to Oregon in May and I would like to know if there are any Aspies on this site near where I will be. I am moving to Bend. Does anyone have any opinions about this city? I might stay with someone on the coast of Oregon for a few weeks first. I don't know if I will. If anyone is in either ...
Actually, as far as I know the safety showers are only for your eyes. If you get soemthing in your eyes. And you would not put soap in your eyes. But if you got it anywhere else - then you should probably use soap. I have a chemical sensitivity, and I *always* wash very well with soap if I get any k...
There may be various forms of auditory integration therapy you can get to help w/ this problem - ask an occupational therapist. Good luck.
You can easily remove her as a friend. There is a link on the bottom left hand corner to do so. I wish you luck.
Awww....I feel bad for you both. I find that people do tend to forget most things pretty quickly and if they don't, well, it's their fault and you didn't do anything wrong. You didnt know she wasn't done using the computer yet! It wasn't your fault. But she probably could not interpret your response...
Well, speaking for myself, I have been on disability for 2 yrs and I'm 24. Almost 25. I have severe sensory issues and go just about crazy in just about any environment. I also have severe chemical sensitivities. I can't go anywhere, have someone do my shopping for me, and just generally have a lot ...
Okay, after having read all five pages of this thread this is what I want to say: I think epilepsy is very likely causing the problems including whatever voices or other sensory hallucinations she is experiencing. I myself do not put much stock in psychiatrists or meds but that is just because they ...
Um.... I'm a little bit late to this....but I can't help it.... did you swallow the dimes because your ex said she wanted to see some "change" in you?
I dont know what yuor situation is, but if you have the money for copays and the transportation, you can easily get them yourself. The refills will be on record at the pharmacy. All you have to do is call them or go there and ask for the refill. You do need money to pay for them, but if you have ins...
Or he could just be a really frustrated person or hate drs like my dad, my dad routinely starts screaming when someone asks hima routine question..... it is annoying obviously but funny how quickly it starts to seem common place.... i hate it though......its ridiculous and scary. he wouldnt hurt any...
I would say do not make more effort as you will only get hurt more, your mom sounds exactly like mine, she resents you for being who you are, i know about being jealous that she chats with your brothers and sisters, my mom doesnt really talk to me either, shuts me out, doesnt know how to deal with m...
Yeah...my parents do the same thing. Esp the not enough effort part. Hate that
I am not sure what to do and feel like I have come to my wit's end. It is a really complicated and weird/difficult situation so I will try to explain it the best I can. In addition to Asperger's I have something called chemical sensitivity, this means that all chemicals and smells from chemicals mak...
Why would someone actually WANT to have AS? Sheesh. If anything else your obsessive note keeping should be a sign of AS, not a sign of "faking"..
I can't find the store only the post You do realize that a true store for Aspie clothing whch i have always wanted woudld be clothing that was OK froma sensory standpoint - loose, cotton, whatever, cus so many of ushave sensory issues I would love this I prob couldnt wear those tshirts
That would be amazing. GOOD FOR YOU. About time someone tried that, Im not inSeattle but would love such a place
I have been thinking about this a lot lately. Mostly for the following reasons: I realize more and more just how different I am. I try to think this is not a bad thing but the thought does creep in my mind. I try to frame it as just having a different mindset and a different way to express things. A...
What no one has considered except most likely the original poster is the physical difficulty that comes with speech. I find speech to be very physically and emotionally taxing. I do it a lot anyway, just because it gives me an emotional connection I crave, but I hate it! I can write and think so muc...
I was hooked up with them - voc rehab its called - but they couldnt really do anything for me because i seem to have too many limitations to work. for a while they did pay for free cabs for me, to look at apartments, but for only a couple weeks, and i didnt find a place to live anyway. there's nothi...
Haha yea I guess Well if you feel like making a trip up here let me know
If so I am visiting for a week and may move here, and I would love to meet any Aspies in the area, so let me know - my email is [email omitted] Kate From list these are Aspies listed in Vermont but I cant figure out how to PM or find their posts - froggydancin mjtvt Nuttdan redswingline UltimApe
I live in Maine, in the Portland area, and would love tomeet other Aspies Email me, [email omitted] if yuou'd like to talk further as I dont cherck WP much Kate
You might want to have all your commune posts in one place so new people can read them and learn about the commune and what you have already planned. I have been looking for your original post but there are 10,000 posts on WP and I have no idea where it is. Maybe you can PM me with ti becasuse I 'll...
In college when that happend it would mostly make me feel good that someone wanted to sit with me and was aware of me and all When I didnt want them to sit with me , I d just say thank you, I appreciate it, but I think I'd rather be alonefor now worked pretty good for most people lol Kate
Wow, people have read some good books! Belfast you have a great list. I particularly liked One Small Starfish among others. I have my list on this website http://www.freewebs.com/aspiefrommaine I have about forty or slightly less books on AS, mostly eiuther from people wiuth AS or autism or parents ...
I probably will be here until Wed or so. I'm going back to Maine, finished with Baltimore... might go to Boston to see some relativesd tho... thanks for your replies email me if you can get here ( [email omitted] ) I dont drive either unfortunately Kate
I wasn't sure what forum to put this in, there is no Meetup Mart. I am visiting my grandparents in the Springfield MA area for a week. I would love to meet up with any other Aspies who might live in the area, just for friendly conversation. I am in my 20s. You can email me at [email omitted] Than...
Gosh, can I relate, some people said some amazing things. Emotions really do get the best of me most times.
1) make your own card saying you asre aspie. do not show it berfore flight if you rer worried about dsicrimantion only show it if needed 2. PLAN EVERYTHING evert detail so there are as few surprises as possible then should be good good luclk
Wow. London public transit sounds really bad. Remind me to never attempt to use public transit in big cities. I live in Portland Maine and we dont have a whoile lot of public transit but what we have is small, friendly and clean enough that it is bearable - we have buses - only within Portland and a...
There's only one thAT i remember from schoiol. dumnb monkeys squash bananas.... for long division ... i liked that one ha
Smell and the feel of clothes
I want to try AIT myselkf.
I had the EXACT same experience once in starbucks a big groip of peoplk,e came in and i thought they would be noisy byut they sat down and i realized i wasnty hearing anything from them and i looked over and they were all signing to each other! it was beautiful, i wished i anbd evewryone coyuld comm...
Can't your 21 year old brother help with your younger bros? It sounds like your mom won't do anything. I would imagine that the little brothers look up to the older brothers. My younger bro idolized my twin bro growing up. Can you ask the 21 yr old to talk to the younger ones and ask them not to do ...
thats awful. controlling people who keep pushing you down and dont think you can do as much as you can just totally suck. I am sorry you hsve to deal with it. Go to college - it wasnt easy for me but it was the best decision I could have made.
Thats terrible to people who think this is "attention whoring": DONT FREAKING READ IT! this is the Haven, there are several other forums on this board that you can read and be yoiur normal nasty self on, but this is the one place peole should be able to post what they are feeling some people have no...
who cares if its not active enough.... you could try it....worse thing that happens is that only a few people really enjoy it instead of a hundred. you know me as Kate from the dcaspie group. i went to school in baltimore. live in maine now. going back to baltimore on Wednesday :) :) for a week and ...
Aww. Where in NC? do you live near chapel hill? isnt the TEACHH center there? That probably doesnt help you much since i think itsfor younger kids. my aunt and uncle live there, but theyre moving soon.
Anyone in northern New England who would like to meet? gain solidarity from fellow aspies? any age gender etc I already know of a group you can join in maine too if anyons interested Kate
Looking on the site just tonight, I was shocked to find that Wrong Planet does not have a meet-up forum. I feel that the single most important thing any organization can do for Aspies is help them meet, in person if they desire, to help create a sense of Aspie community. Aspie community helps us fin...
I had a good experience for my 21st birthday in college. i dont like to drink, so i got a really good chocolate cake, and reallygood chocolate ice cream, and invited 4 or 5 friends over to a commons room, and we got all sugared up on chocolate and talked and laughed and had a good time....I couldnt ...
Well,I went to Goucher College in Baltimore and I thought it was as good as a college could possibly be and very good for an aspie. the student body is really open minded and accepting; tolerant of different quirky people ' The teachers are great , you can get to know them and be friends with them e...
Ha this thread is great and I can relate to every post on it. It is so amazing the little tiny things that you would have never thought anyone shared with you that Aspies seem to have in common with each other. I definitely have the problem, probably more in the past than now but still now to some d...
http://www.washingtonjewishweek.com/mai ... cleID=6570 A Birthright (free trip to Israel for young Jews) trip made just for Aspies. if this had been around in college I just MIGHT have considered doing it. Pretty cool. Kate
http://www.users.dircon.co.uk/~cns/advocacy.html I have never in my life seen such a long and comprehensive site of aspie/ ASD related articles. Sheesh! lol fun to look thru Kate
Hiya all, I have just created a website about Asperger's that took me about a week to make. I know basically nothing about making websites, and so googled "make your own free website" in order to find a site that would allow me to make a basic site free and walk me through it. Luckily, this one was ...
You people frustrate the hell out of me. Is it so hard to understand Jim's situation? Do you think he'd be living there by choice? You say "get a job, move out, get independent" like it's as easy as turning on the microwave or can be accomplished if he'd only put a little more effort into it. Did yo...
Someone posted this to another discussion list im on. i have no idea if this statement is true or not. but its kind of interesting.what do you think? steven spielberg...he was AS wasnt he? and jewish? PS this is the BEST and most positive description of AS ive ever heard. MontereyHerald.com December...
Hi, I am going to be doing a presentation for the Penn Autism Network Conference in Philadelphia about Aspie and autistic communities. In preparation for this presentation, I am trying to find out how people percieve Aspie/autistic communities. I know how I feel about them, but I need to find out wh...
I usually say, the sky A bizarre response to a bizarre question. I know whatyoumean- hate that question too.
I was at a meeting of the Aspie support group I go to today, and someone in the group made to me what was a very striking observation. We were talking about not liking to be with people our age and having friends much older than us, and she said something that made a lot of sense to me to account fo...
We did, lol. I didnt eat it as I dont like Chinese food, but my parents did. It really is the only thing open....too bad it smells so bad...lol .
"If you don't see yourself in this movie, maybe it's because you haven't realized how weird you actually look from the outside. " Fernando, that is great - made me laugh. True. I loved the movie. I could see myself a lot in this movie, as could two Aspie friends of mine who also saw it. It ain't gon...
That would be incredibly irritating to me. Funny, that sounds exactly like some of my counseling experiences. I would sit there, they would look at me, I would ask for advice, they would look at me some more. We got into the battle of wills about how to help me and whether or not it psychotherapy co...
I love oldies as well :) Mostly 60s music. How old are you, are you male or female, and what area do you live in, if you don't mind me asking? I know a lot of young people who like oldies so just wondering if any might be in your area and I could introduce you . At the very least you can go to the o...
I think you should definitely sit with her. She basically said "Let's be friends" to you. You should follow up on it. Bringing up the cafetaria, means that she wants someone to sit with her. Her saying she liked it cus she could do homework was, in my opinion, a cover up so she didnt look like too m...
Yes, it seems like question asking is a very common Aspie characteristic, and I think the person who put forth the reason why makes a lot of sense! We like to analyze, to go deep, to truly understand something. As a rule we are not satisfied with the surface of anything. Therefore we ask a lot of qu...
Hear ye! Hear ye! I now proclaim this a Thanksgiving free space where all ye can come to escape your families, friends, loved ones and all else during this lovely holiday. Thanksgiving, it is such an anticlimantic holiday in my mind, you know, all this buildup for just a dinner. Especially if you do...
Yeah, I'm a female with a twin brother.
That's terrible and definitely workplace abuse. You don't seem to be doing anything wrong and there is absolutely no reason to say your work is BS in front of everyone!! Oh- and Im happy and giggly all the time for mostly the same reason - someone also commented to me she thought it was weird - I ha...
Sociable hermit - why don't you just not answer the phone? She'll never know that you weren't there. I don't answer the phone unless I want to talk. Otherwise I will be very irritable when talking to the person. I wait until *I* feel like making the call and then I can be sociable and pleasant. Kate
That is so rediculous. Your professor is ridiculous for not correcting them. Social intelligence is just one kind of many , many different kinds of intelligence. Didn't you discuss the eight types of intelligence?? Gardner's eight kinds of intelligence: Bodily-kinesthetic (athletic people could be c...
That's ridiculous. It's a college cafetaria for God's sake - the abnormal thing would be if you WEREN'T going to the different stations and blocking people's ways or cutting them off - that happens constantly when you fit hundreds of people in a small space. At my college cafetaria - it was pandemon...
My mom lives in Missoula, are you anywhere near there? There's one other person from Missoula on here too. Welcome!
Yeah, I'm part of an Aspie social group with very nice people in it whose company I enjoy very much. Kate
That sucks, I am soo sorry . Especially about the parents thing, I can relate, sometimes when I've needed to be comforted they've been anything but, and all that stuff about not being ready to be an adult is BS, of course you are, you just do things a little differently. that stuff hurts tho, sorry....
I saw this movie. It was pretty good, I liked the characterizations of the characters. The story was pretty boring. All they did was fall in love and out of love. And in love and out of love, lol. If it wasn't for the Aspie characters I would have never watched it. It's the kind of movie I would nor...
You write beautifully and powerfully. It sucks that all of those things happened to you. I cannot start to imagine, you must be so strong to still be here!! ! You have the strength inside you, I hope you manage to find your happiness. Shot at for being openly jewish - how? as a jewish person who has...
Tangerine, that sounds like me in department stores. I can never figure out how to get out of them! It drives me crazy, and there's perfume everywhere and I feel like Im going crazy if Im in one for too long, I always flag down the nearest associate and ask "HOW DO YOU GET TO THE MALL??! !" (quick b...
Hi, I am very interested in your idea. I am 22 and I am positively dying to get out my parents' house, as is clearly evidenced from previous posts, especially my one entitled "Medication and family histrionics" or something to that degree. I have 3.5 years of college behind me, my parents said they ...
hey court, i dont have eds obviously, but i sure would like it if you would call and email me and tell me when and if you are going to be in maine. i emailed ya and left several voice mssgs, i would be nice to see you, its probably too late now. funny how you can run into people on a message board y...
I have the same thing happen nearly every day, cockneyrebel. i sympathize with you.
my showers are prob 10-15min, middle of the road I cant stay in there *too * long or else my feet hurt whic h is a great incentive to get out if i wanna take a really quick 5 min shower if im late for something i visaluze what i will do in what order etc when i get in there before i get in so i can ...
Our brains tend to go on overload a lot quicker than most. Eight hours a day is a LOT!! to be on all the time, and we have it a lot harder having to pretend and figure out what to do , i have that problem too, you're not the only one. since you're working with ASD kids maybe your employers would be ...
I had/have kind of similar problems. Well, parents never liked me staying up all night and still dont but they dont and never have stopped me from doing it, which is good. [cept schooldays obvioiusly] my dad does it too actually, clash sometimes cus of that, both want the comp and peace and quiet. i...
Yes, scents are my BIGGEST problem of all. My worst sensitivity by far. All of the above I agree with. Perfumes KILL me. In fact I actually had to leave my college after I had completed three and a half years because I developed a really strong sensitivity to perfume, and suddenly everywhere I went ...
God, sounds very similar VERY similar to what it was like growing up for me!! I always ALWAYS told basically that I never relaxed or that I was difficult or that I somehow was wrong/did things too differently etc .... when I was in junior high my bro would pick fights with me, mom would side with hi...
egnimatic, can you link to the page you found about it? thanks so far going ok guess i'll take it for a bit talked to dr who prescribed it today made me feel a little better, still resent dad for making me take it but it could be a lot worse i guess just gotta roll with it.
Thanks for all your thoughtful responses. A woman who is an assistant to a psychiatrist who does medicines for the practice, who seemed intelligent, said that she has seen Abilify help ASD people. I have heard it to be useful for ASD people w/ temper/ anger issues (not me). To placate them I am givi...
There are so many posts I have wanted to make over the last month or two describing the situation I am in but lacked the energy or access to a comfortable enough computer to write. Let's just say the tension at my house has been thick enough to cut with a knife, and my dad has rediscovered the finer...
well theyre not forcing me, theyre not ramming the pills down my throat, its just theyre kicking me out if i dont my dad came home and had a tantrum over the fact that someone closed the door and window, a chair was in the wrong place, and i dared ask him to get me turkey while he was already out sh...
"I have more problems with the fit of clothing than the fabrics. Except I prefer softer fabrics and ones with less tactilly-noticeable seams. But I have bigger problems with neck lines and the fit at the waist and how long the sleeves are if it's a t-shirt." Thats me exactly the fit is incredibly im...
already came out not sure if will go to dvd oir not
Thanks for all your replies they want me to take it mostly for sensory issues i dont think it can help that but whatever i have problems with smells, noise, the feels of things etc they say i avoid a lot of things cus of that but i went to college living oncampus for 3.5 yrs i found ways t o work ar...
Has anyone ever taken Abilify? Has anyone taken an antipsychotic? I am being forced against my wishes to take the above starting end of the week. My parents and I have fought over this issue for three months and they are putting their foot down and forcing me. I am scared to death. I can't stand the...
I can't believe it took this long for someone to mention GRASP. http://www.grasp.org its the largest network of support groups for adults in the xcountry its based out of NY, it has groups on the east coast and midwest ive gone to AS adult groups in Washington DC and my hometown in Maine Where do yo...
Hi and welcome to wrong planet! What do you most enjoy to do in your free time? What are your biggest frustrations in being nonverbal in a highly verbal world? Just two questions to get to know you better Kate
God, that sucks!! I can sympathize a little because I too am stuck in my house, am 22, and cannot drive. Fortunately I do not have to deal with any abusive family members, but it is still driving me crazy! I know how freaking scary it is to go out on your own. Can you live at the YMCA? I think they ...
I absolutely hate spontaneity, I can't stand it, it chokes me, I'll start to panic, I need to be prepared. I laugh at people who expect me to do things on the spur of the moment without planning them first. I need to plan things out!! Kate
in terms of giving directions or driving im terrible at left and right cus it changes depending on which direction you are at! i dont drive, but , still in french class we used to have to do maps and such and give directions in french well, if i cant do it in english i sure as hell cant do it in fre...
good thread my sensory issues for sure smell and noise = YUCK = major trouble for me Kate
walkinthe rain, are you not bothered by what your husband does? my mom used to yell at me horribly and knowing i could never win i just waited it out but it kind of destroyed me inside. my dad does this now too and my stepmom does the same thing and waits him out (sometimes she argues back but mostl...
It has come to my attention that I am terrible with disagreements of any kind. when i was a kid i was yelled at a lot. i learned that my happiness depended on being able to please my mom and that arguments meant i wouldnt get what i needed (in this case acceptance understanding connection love etc)....
That was such a respectful and good analysis of the conversation, I'm impressed. Good job.
That's wonderful! Good for you
Your poem is beautiful, hyperalien, I loved it and can definitely relate. It is the worst possible thing to put down someone who has taken the risk of expressing themself. There was nothing wrong with hyperalien's poem. The point is not how you write it but what is said. Poetry doesn't have to fit a...
I hate that too - oy! When your parents dont see that certain things are actually good coping methods and dont mean you're falling apart.
That is a very good point to make. So many people have a problem with us needing a routine. They think we want to have all the power and all the control, and this is not true. They think that if they themselves do not need a routine such as we do, then we couldn't possibly need it. But they don't un...
That's awful! I am so sorry that you have to deal with that. It would feel such an insult to me to have to have someone following me around all the time at the age of 17. I don't know, ask for another one, or ask for a family discussion where you decide together what is and what is not acceptable? g...
Yeah, I think most aspies are much worse than the average bear at multitasking, our minds are kind of one track and only used to doing one thing at a time. I used to carry on so many IM conversations at once when I was younger, but I can't do that anymore. I like to talk to only one person at once, ...
That was amazing, it was great........ I echo so much your sentiments...there are all these problems we have.... and no one really cares or understands....and we have to struggle with them and they're really hard... I agree.
Do you not do it because of the hypersensitivity issues? Or for some other reason? I've always brushed my teeth without problem, but I used to hate flossing. I didn't floss until a year or two ago, when my gums and teeth started really hurting and I thought I was in for it. I didn't want them to hur...
By the way - not that it matters in this situation but I just thought you might want to know - you are a really good writer. I liked the way you wrote that. Very clear and easy to follow.
That is absolutely awful. I am soo sorry for what you have had to go through. No one should have to go through that. I had problems with PE, too. Not nearly as severe but it just wasn't made for me. One look at this post and anyone should agree you should get out of PE. Good luck. You are right here.
I know exactly what you mean. I used to get days and times like those all the time, almost daily. I had difficulties but I had so much good too. Now I have nothing, since I have left college, and it is killing me. I have spent the last two months in pursuit of the SIMPLEST of joys, all of which have...
Yeah, I always had the same trouble in school. I was never called on and alwyas had trouble in groups It's interesting you mention science projects in particular. Those were the worst for me. We would always get in groups and I would never have a partner. I hated subs too It wrecked havoc.
Wow. I just wanted to tell you, I have never read a poist I could relate to soi much as that. Yes it was long but the whole way I was going "OMG! That happens to me too! Wow, I think like that too! That makes so much sense!" and I was feeling soooo bad for you. I cannot express how bad i feel for yo...
I think its interesting to hear about the amount of people who work with people with disabilities, I think that would be a good job, we could certainly understand them and have empathy for them. I'm not sure what I want to do . I've got 19 college credits left first.
GSCEs are something you take when you finish high school in England if Im not mistaken. Its something to do with grades that you get when you finish school, I think equivalent to our SATs, so having good scores on them would be a good thing they key here is to flatter them and don't reveal too many ...
Ouch...that's a hard one. Sounds like a job I would absolutely hate. Good luck there. I second the going off on your own during lunch thing.
Yeah I read it, for an existential psych class actually. I thought it made some very good points in some places, particularly in describing the "sunday malaise" where everyone is so busy then the weekend comes and they realize how little meanign their life actually has because they have nothing to d...
Whatever you do, though, it's probably not a good idea to go off the meds too quickly or else you get withdrawal effects. So try taking going down by like 10 or 20 mg every few days. it is possible to have both AS and ADD, i know some people who do , some people believe its all along the same spectr...
Very interesting post . I once emailed a guy at my college that several sources told me was AS. Wanted to find a kindred soul. in a very polite way i asked him if he was AS and if he'd be interested in joining an as group i went to . got back a very definitive "NO who told you that about me? " oops ...
I was just writing about this on another board earlier today Briefly: You are not faking it. She's messing with your mind. I speak like that too. It's how we're wired. Just cus we can cover it with a bandaid - speaking NT - doesn't mean we're not Aspie. I too will act as weird as I damn well please ...
yeah i think my dad wishes the same thing. thanks for the reccomendation! daniel segal wrote some other book abou the brai n someoen reccomended to me i think, i should look into it. Kate
i am way too tired to write an eloquent response, but you have made my heart so happy by writing this. Two years after reading everything i could possibly get my hands on about AS, and I am still, STILL finding things that I thought I was the only one who did that is actually common to all or most A...
Sure - it's simple, really. In any given situation people will try to create the best possible situation. They will look for the best possible people to talk to. In school, they will talk to their friends, or the people that give them power. In a resteraunt or foreign place where they do not know an...
Well, nobody can please everybody all the time , and i think it's great that this site even has an advice column. I think most of GD's responses are good enough but I dont usually read the column, However the one you mention , i really enjoyed, I thought the response was GREAT, it actually made me t...
bizarre - i have a twin brother too and i always used to play with him to the exclusion of all others when i was very young, too.
You want book reccomendations? I'll give you book reccomendations, lol Parent memoirs: 1. A Different Kind of Boy, Daniel Mont Very readable, very interesting. The story of a family from Potomac, Maryland, and a nine year old boy who finishes second in a national math talent search but has trouble w...
Thanks for all your replies , i appreciate them yes my parents know of my AS and sensitivities my stepmom was the one who first described my smell problems to me as "chemical sensitivities," actually and my dad has many of the same issues the thing is, i am not by any long stretch crying to get atte...
This might be similar to another post I made recently but I wanted to say it in a different way. disclaimer: i know this is long. but ... at least skim it, pretty please? :) Please just tell me what you think should have happened regarding this scenario that befell me this afternoon. I go grocery sh...
I can relate SOO much. I can relate so much to sensory issues giving you such hell that you can never just sit down and be comfortable. esp the sweatshirt on and off, do that all the time; and the sun and so many other things. i dont think ive ever related to a post as much as yours. It could have b...
i think you're just like me! and I LOVE LOVE how you say "people need to learn that words have meaning" they really do!! ! thats something i would say
i think i would like to be oblivious. i am getting awfully tired of self awarness! it is painful!
The thread about eye contact sparked this. Was just curious about people's first memories of autism awareness in general. My first autistic related memory, as far as I can tell: i have a vague memory of sitting in perhaps a kitchen, young, i want to say five but i have no idea really, but quite youn...
God, I can relate so much, it is so weird to sign on to these boards and see your life story already typed by someone else. I don't share all of your problems but many of them. I went to college for three and a half years. One semester shy of graduating I had to leave campus. Mostly because of issue...
I cant stand roller coasters and generally am not very fond of amusement parks. too hot too many people! and I cant stand waiting in line i just wont do it. i was lucky the park near where i grew up - almost never any lines. small park. lots of rides, almost never any lines. not sure if its the same...
I have a question which is very important to me. I would like to know if other Aspies experience this. This might vary among Aspies and vary even among gender, but. I find I have a very strong need for someone to understand my emotional experience of something. For most of my life no one understood ...
Hmm thats interesting. I do the same thing. I've been typing since I was like.... 10? I dont know how young. But for a long time. And no one taught me to type so I guess I just figured it out myself but what I figured out was how to type w/ two fingers.... I use the pointer fingers is that what you ...
alex, everyone gets their own room at your school? lucky! :) Here's how i survive living in the dorms. i agree it's VERY hard! too many noisy people and the rooms are too small. here's my history: freshman yr: lived in suite situation, 2 double rooms- good in that lots of room, new dorm, had own liv...
omg i love this thread for me eye contact feels like they are burning into my head it hurts so much like a red hot laser i too will look for a few seconds and then look away and look back so awkward tho i too forget what im trying to say if i look too long! but can focus if im not looking its easier...
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I love finding others with the same behaviors as me.... I talk to myself all the time. Sophist, yes, I am constantly second person. And Prom, yes, I use we all the time. I think it came from not having anyone really to talk to when I was growing up, so I talked to myself. I do everything another per...
i would hate that! that would scare me. random drunken people who i dont know i find quite frightening. they are too unpredictable - as if people aren't unpredictable enough already!
I hate having six weeks with nothing to do too! My last day sounded relatively similar to yours, well some parts anyway. we go back jan 23. it couldnt come soon enough. there's nothing to do at home. relaxing is nice sure but in small does...my mind does not like unstructured time.
i've just got to say...it makes me realize how lucky i am. the college that i go to has a lot of very open minded and tolerant people, a lot of quirky people. i can be as weird as i want and no one bats an eye. once i was dancing in front of the cafe on a rainy day and someone came up to me and said...
Yes....I'm 20. I don't have anything against my peers, but I was bullied pretty badly in my junior high school years and have never really got that trust back. Most of the people at my college are very nice, wonderful people who wouldn't hurt anyone. And I've gotten better at trusting them, trusting...
just looked WS up online http://www.williams-syndrome.org.uk/abo ... arents.htm looks a lot like AS with a bunch of physical disabilities thrown in, and the added benefit of this "overfriendliness" thing they talk about. hmm.
I've read so much about the laptop program in the papers, I'm glad someone's getting good use out of them. What grade are they giving them to now...is it seventh? Kate
I too have always been the odd one out in groups. In high school I dreaded them so much because of this. So many crying fits because of being the last one in a group. So much having to have the teacher put me in a group. It really is kind of cruel. Major breakdown freshman yr of college resulting fr...
woah, there's another country fan on here. i was just talking about that song! it's so overplayed though, im hearing it 3-4 times a day, and it's been at number one for seven weeks!
eh.. i think what mich means , correct me if im wrong, is that sometimes accents sound exotic , for lack of a better word, and it just makes the person kind of sound better than everyone else cus its something new and different (but in a good way). for example at my school last sem there were a coup...
crossing your legs and sitting indian style - so do we all do that? amazing the things you never would have connected to AS... ive always sat "indian style"so to speak its always been thenoylway that has been comfortableto me, it feels so weird not to sit like that and i am so much calmer sitting li...
I love the Beatles as well... used to know all kinds of beatles facts and trivia and would ask people about it... lol, when i was younger whenever anyone would tell me they liked the beatles or even 60s music in general i would instantly bombard them with things like "what was the date the beatles a...
Yes, I talk to myself all the time. I would write more but I am being attacked by mutant mosquitos in my very own house. I cannot stand mosquitos. I am about at my wit's end with mosquitos. I cannot wait to I go back to school and the mosquitos there should not be so bad. Although the heat certainly...
A slightly longer chain of events that started with watching a movie about an autistic boy on Lifetime TV. I read books about autism and AS out of pure intellectual interest for several months before I began to think that they actually sounded a lot like me. All these posts just serve to illustrate ...
I'm quite talkative myself. I enjoy talking when it's a situation I'm comfortable in. I also talk a lot when I'm nervous.
The biggest problem I have with living with other people is I start comparing myself to them and get really really depressed, or get really frustrated about not be able to communicate with them properly and, you guessed it, also get quite depressed. So most of the time I try to stick to myself and a...
Yeah, I can agree with everything here. For example, the other day people in my work place were having some discussion about...I think it was that political cartoon, the jib jab "this land is my land" parody. someone was wondering who did it or what it was or some details or something. so i said wha...
hmm, well that's a request i'd probably decline, a because im under 21 but b because i can't stand unstructured situations ... but what i kept thinking when reading your post is...what is a backhoe?
Thanks for your replies. I live in a suburb of a small city. I used to like to bike but I've gotten out of practice and now don't like it that much anymore. Not a big fan of exerting myself physically too much. Also the problem w biking is finding a place to leave your bike when you get to your dest...
ooh! really good thread. hey queenbee, nice to see you here, enjoyed your posts on aspergia. ill have to reply to this when i have more energy. but clothing is a big problem for me too.
Do you think this is true? Yeah...I share your son's opinion...I don't like the actual work of school and there are a lot of parts about school I don't like but I love the structure. I can definitely see behavioral problems coming from the angst and worry about having no structure over the summer. ...
Does anyone like this show? I love it. It's on every night in reruns here. The characters are very Aspie-like, I think!! they take things literally, don't understand social rules, etc. Kate
Omg, I love that show!! ! I just discovered it a few weeks ago. It's on weekdays from 9-10pm here. It's so funny!! I love those characters. I love Fester cus he's always so cheery, but they're all good. I love how everything is backwards for them. I didn't know that there was an Addams Family TV sho...
I've always done really well gradewise. I've always spent hours worrying about schoolwork/assignments/tests etc, though. Takes me twice as long as most other people to do stuff, I think. I hate the social part of college but I like living on campus and the freedom it gives me, I can go out to the ne...
Okay, I'm gonna give this site one of its first real rants. I am so fed up with my life right now. Tears are rolling down my face and I'm trying to be calm enough to write this, and hope my mom doesn't come over here because tears would make her angry. Which is just wrong, but is how it is. I don't ...
I hate people interrupting you during tests too. I once had a teacher who would do the weirdest things during exams...she would put the Weather Channel on, for example, the day before a snowday while we were taking our test. Or she would call her insurance company and argue over a bill right in fron...
Hi... my name is Kate. I'm 20, and I live in Maine and go to school in Baltimore. I'm also on Aspergia, I posted a really long intro there. I like being among like minded people who knows what it feels like and so I look forward to getting to know you all. Dan and Alex have done a wonderful job with...
I think that by all means the kid should know his or her diagnosis so they don't grow up thinking something is terribly wrong with them but not knowing what it is. (After a certain point and with your own judgment of course. I mean kids before a certain age like 6 or 7 probably don't need to know, b...
Aspie from Maine
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